Is there anything that has happened in your life, whether done by you or unto you, that you need to deal with? A couple of weeks ago, I realized that there were multiple situations in my life that I needed to fix. They had been suppressed for so long that I had started to forget about them, until one day I realized that if I didn’t face them, they were going to hit me in the face. God was telling me that I had someone to forgive and I needed forgiveness from someone. It was time to face it.
So, what’s your “it”?
Maybe, like me, you need to forgive someone.
Maybe, like me, you need to ask for forgiveness.
Or maybe you need to let that person explain themselves.
Maybe you need to open up your heart again.
Choosing to face the hard things is not usually my first choice. In fact, when there is some hard situation to face, I often retreat to comfort. I want to slip back into what is easy. The easy thing to do would be to back out. Step away. Cancel. That’s my first reaction, which I’m learning to override. But to be honest, it’s hard to do hard things! It’s difficult to realize that every day that goes by without me facing my mistakes is another day that they do more damage. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just mess up and move on, never facing the consequences for our mistakes? Actually, a lot of people do that. And while it does feel good in the moment, getting by with things and letting them add up is like adding kindling to a flame. It keeps feeding the fire.
When you procrastinate doing something about “it,” it stays in the back of your mind and festers. Whether you choose to suppress it or seize it is up to you. No one can make you call that person. No one is going to force you to have that tough conversation. Nobody can hold your hand as you do what you know you need to do.
Or you can just do nothing. You can shove “it” into the messy Tupperware cupboard, hidden with the other things you’ve shoved out of sight (but not really out of mind).
But one day, you’re going to have to open that cupboard.
You’re going to get a phone call or a text message. You’re going to open the newspaper and read that article. And when you do, all of those mistakes you’ve been hiding away are going to come toppling down with a clatter to rest at your feet.
My greatest hope is that when the topple happens, you’ll have time to pick it all up. I hope you’re not too late. I hope you’ll have the courage to lean down, look at it all, and do what needs to be done. I hope you’ll find the strength to fess up and face it. Because not everyone gets one more chance.
The longer you wait, the more your chance diminishes. So do it right now. Open that cupboard and let it all fall. After all, the sooner the shelves are empty, the sooner you can dust, pick up, and start again.
I can guarantee that it won’t be easy. That’s why people have shelves that are suffocating full of mismatched Tupperware. It takes determination to even open that door, let alone begin to deal with the process of organizing. That’s how it is with the messes in our lives: it takes strength to recognize the messes and even more strength to clean them up.
Here are 3 reasons why you need to face the hard things in your life now (including that Tupperware cupboard!) –
- You can’t take your opportunity for reconciliation for granted because you don’t know how many more chances you’ll get.
- You can’t clean up your life if you aren’t willing to open up the cupboard. This means you have to face up to what you’ve done in your past and what’s been done to you if you want to heal completely.
- Your chance has an expiration date. I can’t tell you when your date is, but know that it is coming quickly. Fix it now while it’s still fresh. But even if it’s long overdue, at least try. There’s no penalty for an attempt.
I’ll let you in on a little secret: most people aren’t facing the hard things. Why? Because it is hard. Uncomfortable. Maybe even very awkward. But you don’t gain anything by staying warm and dry on the shore. You gain strength, character, and perseverance when you jump into the cold water. Right in the midst of the uncomfortable and awkward is when you get stronger. Most people stay comfortable for their entire life, but with that comfort comes growing regrets and missed opportunities.
The more you hide and avoid it, the more numb you will become to all of the hard things you should be facing. But just because you put a Band-Aid over a wound doesn’t mean it isn’t there. So I urge you to go face the hard stuff today. Who do you need to contact? Where do you need to go? What do you need to say? Embrace your fear, fess up, and face it. I can promise you that the freedom that comes when you fix things feels better than any comfort you’ve ever hidden behind.
Plus, there’s nothing better than a clean, organized Tupperware cupboard. 🙂